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Dealing with Kayley's death:
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Tessa and Mack have dealt with their daughter's death in a tragic accident in two entirely different ways. Losing a child is a blow from which many marriages can't recover. What did each of them do that was helpful? What was not helpful? Could you empathize more with one's reactions to grief than the other's?
Mack is so desperate for human contact that he almost makes a mistake that could cost him his marriage. In this context, were you able to understand his lapse?
Tessa's desire for revenge is so strong that it almost costs her what's left of her family. Could you imagine yourself in her position? Could you have found a better way to make peace with Robert's part in her daughter's death?
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I identified more with Mack's way of dealing. I felt Tessa should have sought outside help when she was unable to pull herself out of the quicksand of her situation. However, my heart empathized completely with Tess's pain & anger. I've always admired the forgiveness that some families have been able to extend to someone who has committed such a horrible deed. I want to think I would be able to find a way to forgive, but I'm not sure if I have that kind of strength.
ReplyDeleteI felt that Mack was dealing with the loss in a more positive and healthy way. Although a great organisation that Tess joined, her obsession wasn't healthy and I feel made the loss of her daughter worse. You cannot say how you would deal with the same situation and I know that I would never be able to forgive. But I would hope that I would learn to deal with it and continue to live in a positive maner.
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is the ultimate way to healing. It is not easy and may take a long time, but it leads to personal wholeness again. It makes me sad when people feel that they need to grieve alone because no one can understand how they feel. We all need others to help us through hard times like these.
ReplyDeleteWhat each of them did that was helpful was that they still loved each other enough to put up with the things each did. I do believe that Mack took a better approach than Tessa. I have been in the mindset of wanting revenge for the brutal murder of my sister. Until you have lived it, you can't second guess it. I know this is a fictional book but those of us that have lived through something like this get really tired and upset from others saying they know how we feel when there is no way possible they know unless they have lived through something similar themselves. I personally will never forgive the two people that murdered my sister. They themselves have no remorse whatsoever. They will continue to rot in prison until they die and the tax payers of California will pay for them. Thankfully they will never get out of prison alive. They are extremely proud of all the people they murdered. I don't think anyone would forgive that.
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