tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post7885319744483765132..comments2024-01-18T22:31:09.132-07:00Comments on Starwood Quilter: Farmer's Daughter Quilt Block and Main Character Mary Dell of Between Heaven and Texas by Marie BostwickStarwood Quilterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02772697925399908332noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-13714178222275448702013-08-24T17:22:08.745-06:002013-08-24T17:22:08.745-06:00Thanks for the heads-up about being a no-reply com...Thanks for the heads-up about being a no-reply commenter. I changed my settings so that I can receive email. Mary Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03537064991356900973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-3850626249203863392013-08-24T17:19:15.590-06:002013-08-24T17:19:15.590-06:00I think that Mary Dell coped with all things in he...I think that Mary Dell coped with all things in her life that presented a challenge. She was tenacious in her desire to make the best of a situation and succeed. Whether it was submitting quilts for publication, getting a business started or raising her child Mary Dell gave it her all. I don't think this necessarily means she was a member of " the stronger sex". She just believed in working hard for what was important. I think that value was instilled early on by her family and developed during her early life experiences. Donny? He might have been programmed through his early teachings and experiences to believe that having a son who was less than perfect made him look weak. My impression was that he felt bad about it but didn't have the strength to overcome those attitudes or accept help from from others to do so. Mary Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03537064991356900973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-75453145060297429512013-08-24T09:57:58.286-06:002013-08-24T09:57:58.286-06:00I also meant to say I like the pictured block. I&#...I also meant to say I like the pictured block. I'm saving that pattern. Will check out the others too.Charhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09052731047595591573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-19327373923637868282013-08-24T09:56:58.578-06:002013-08-24T09:56:58.578-06:00Some very insightful people on this blog - enough ...Some very insightful people on this blog - enough said - no need to repeat.Charhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09052731047595591573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-76320323090651258972013-08-23T21:12:40.363-06:002013-08-23T21:12:40.363-06:00We are advocates for our kids; we just have to be ...We are advocates for our kids; we just have to be careful that we don't overdo this; we must allow them to be independent. Sometimes the man blames himself for the handicap and can't handle this. Nancy in INhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11068091015054046287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-19066044334965919322013-08-23T13:33:27.670-06:002013-08-23T13:33:27.670-06:00Mary Dell has always been able to accept what life...Mary Dell has always been able to accept what life has given her without complaint. Donny couldn't even tolerate the idea of loving a child unless it was his own flesh and blood.<br /><br />Advocating for your child is ok, as long as you encourage your child to do things themselves, and not to become a helicopter parent. My sons were raised to become responsible, caring adults, not to have mommy do everything for them. Because of this, they are turning out very well, thank goodness. Cheryl's Teapots2Quiltinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005480747596617459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-47748038037139170272013-08-23T08:21:00.994-06:002013-08-23T08:21:00.994-06:00I don't think a "weaker sex" comes i...I don't think a "weaker sex" comes into play when a man leaves a relationship when a child is born with a handicap. It happens often in real life. It often happens even when a child does not have a handicap. That being said, moms for the most part can't abandon their children as easily as a man can. In my opinion, that has nothing to do with being a "weaker sex". It is something totally different.<br /><br />I think it is extremely important for a parent to educate themselves when they have a child with a problem whether it's downs syndrome, ADD or something else. It is important to be educated on what you are dealing with. My son is ADD and I am forever learning as much as I can concerning ADD to help him through growing and life in general and others with ADD. It runs in my family. Having done my homework I was able to find the correct routes to educate my son through his ADD. He has never been a discipline problem at school or at home because I had that education. He graduated with straight A's and was a Governors Honors Program student. Just started his 4th year of college. So, yeah, advocacy has it's place.lisa0116https://www.blogger.com/profile/07762879176838183167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-62084092949723835102013-08-23T08:18:34.893-06:002013-08-23T08:18:34.893-06:00Every child is a gift from God and has strengths a...Every child is a gift from God and has strengths and weaknesses. Donny apparently only saw the weakness in Howard and didn't want to take the time to discover the hidden wonders of his personality. So, who had the greater weakness, Howard or Donny? Advocacy can get out of hand if the caregiver, either a man or woman, ignores the needs of others in the family. There has to be a balance, and shared caregiving, with the help of others, and guided counseling, can relieve stress. It's not an easy thing. I haven't read the book yet, but hope to download it to my kindle soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-13004412484082447112013-08-23T05:50:37.592-06:002013-08-23T05:50:37.592-06:00Ditto to Karen's, MamaT's & Julie'...Ditto to Karen's, MamaT's & Julie's comments. I can not state these observations any better!Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08088879057807463879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-62493593742666562042013-08-22T23:30:54.764-06:002013-08-22T23:30:54.764-06:00We all have strengths and weaknesses. It helps to ...We all have strengths and weaknesses. It helps to discover those strengths so we can overcome the weaknesses. Sometimes we have to find our own way and sometimes we find an advocate. It might not even be a parent. Helicopter parents that hover over kids, keeping them from making mistakes are not always as helpful as they may seem... we learn by mistakes as well.<br />It really is hard when your parents do not support your efforts though, so parenting needs to find a balance.Julie Fukudahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704374750710761269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-84844362284505579942013-08-22T20:25:12.916-06:002013-08-22T20:25:12.916-06:00Men and women are complementary to one another wit...Men and women are complementary to one another with strengths and weaknesses that are illuminated by their unique personalities.<br /><br />If parents aren't, can't or won't be unfailing advocates for their children, then all is lost. Who more so than a mother or father who's flesh and blood you are could be a better advocate for you as a child. Well, and then there is Donny!!! Sigh, the world just stinks sometimes doesn't it. What a terrific book.Mama T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06174729064990275470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6511052179322289323.post-39486221649136987522013-08-22T19:55:43.440-06:002013-08-22T19:55:43.440-06:00I appreciate the way Marie brings up life issues i...I appreciate the way Marie brings up life issues in her books and educates us while we enjoy a good story. I don't think there is a weaker sex. Men and women often have different gifts to bring to a relationship. I think that's a good thing.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02896669074532380150noreply@blogger.com